Living in the present matters

Christian Richomme, a psychoanalyst, suggests that people who appreciate life the most tend to focus on the present rather than constantly looking forward to the next step or event in their lives.

Happiness isn't about luck or simplicity

Richomme points out that the happiest people are not necessarily those with simpler, more stable, or luckier lives. Instead, their happiness comes from how they live their daily lives, not the events that happen to them.

The trap of future happiness

Some people tell themselves they will be happy when certain life changes occur, such as finding love or changing jobs. While this is natural, Richomme explains that constantly focusing on future goals can take away from the ability to enjoy the present.

Savoring life's small moments

People who truly enjoy life continue to pursue their goals and dreams but also find joy in small daily experiences, like sharing a coffee, taking a walk, or having a sincere conversation.

The psychology of savouration

In psychology, the ability to prolong and enjoy positive emotions is called "savouration." It involves consciously focusing on the present moment rather than rushing through it to reach the next goal or task.

Slowing down for lasting satisfaction

Richomme suggests that learning to savor the present doesn't require changing one's life but instead involves slowing down, focusing on the current experience, and avoiding the urge to immediately move on to the next thing. This practice can lead to a deeper sense of satisfaction.