A parent wrote to the Care and Feeding column about concerns regarding a child with learning disabilities at an after-school language club. The child, Philip, is described as loud, hyperactive, and physically large. He often leaves the club room and wanders into the library’s children’s area, where he disrupts other children. The parent mentions that Philip’s father, Roy, drops him off and leaves quickly, paying the required fee online. The club leader, Sam, tries to engage Philip but seems reluctant to address the issue with Roy. The librarians, who are elderly, can only manage Philip temporarily. The parent is considering withdrawing their child from the club but does not want to deprive her of an activity she enjoys. The column’s response emphasizes that Sam, as the club leader, is responsible for ensuring the safety and well-being of all participants, including Philip. It recommends that Sam establish guidelines based on children’s developmental abilities rather than their age. The advice also suggests seeking volunteers or outside help to support children with special needs and encourages the other parents to support Sam in addressing the issue. In another letter, a parent expressed concern about their sister, Molly, who has been married and divorced eight times in the past decade. Molly is now considering marrying someone she’s only been dating for three months. The writer asks how to convince Molly to wait before getting married again. The response acknowledges that Molly will likely make her own decisions but suggests preparing for the possibility of another divorce. Another letter asked whether to inform a spouse’s family in advance that a Thanksgiving gathering will be alcohol-free. The response recommended informing them in advance so they can make alternative plans if needed. A separate letter described a situation where a mother, who has experience in basketball, was passed over for a coaching position in favor of a less qualified individual. The parent is seeking advice on how to handle the situation, though the column did not provide a detailed response to this particular concern.