A reader known as "Eggless on the East Coast" is seeking guidance on whether to use her own eggs for a surrogacy arrangement. She is in a relationship with her fiancé and is considering surrogacy due to several health conditions, including vaginismus, severe endometriosis, mild scoliosis, and major depressive disorder. These conditions make natural pregnancy difficult or impossible. Her fiancé is eager to use his sperm and has encouraged her to consider donating her own eggs, but she finds the idea intimidating because of the physical and emotional demands it would place on her. She is also unsure if it would be fair to ask her fiancé not to contribute biologically if she chooses not to donate her eggs. The advice column encourages her to have an open and honest conversation with her fiancé about her concerns and feelings. It suggests considering whether another family member might be a suitable egg donor, which could ease the emotional burden on her. The column also notes that some couples in similar situations have discussed the idea that if neither partner can reasonably contribute biologically, then neither should be expected to. The advice emphasizes the importance of mutual understanding, honesty, and compromise in making such a significant decision. Another reader, "A First," is worried about their 16-year-old son wanting to get a small, meaningful tattoo for his birthday. The parent has tattoos from their younger years and is now regretful of some of them. They are concerned about the permanence of tattoos and the potential for future regret. The advice column recommends helping the son think carefully about the decision, ensuring the tattoo is done by a licensed and skilled artist, and that the choice is not made on impulse. The column also suggests that the parent could accompany their son or have another trusted adult present during the process to provide support and guidance. A third reader, "Making Decisions," is looking for advice on helping their younger daughter, Helena, become more independent in making decisions. Helena tends to avoid making choices and often lets others decide for her. The advice column suggests exploring whether her indecision is linked to fear of making mistakes or anxiety about how others might react. The column recommends talking directly with Helena to understand her concerns and helping her build confidence in her own judgment. If she is unable to express her fears clearly, the advice suggests considering professional support to address possible anxiety or other underlying issues.