Handjobs are experiencing a resurgence in popularity as an alternative to oral sex in modern intimate relationships, according to several recent discussions and reports. Sex podcaster Dan Savage has noted that hand-to-genital contact—often referred to as a "handjob"—is becoming a prominent trend in 2026, with some individuals preferring it over oral sex. A friend of Savage reportedly admitted to enjoying handjobs more than blowjobs, and a man interviewed on a train echoed the sentiment, saying handjobs were superior. Online communities, including Reddit, have also reflected this shift. One user described a handjob while kissing and touching their partner’s breasts as an ideal experience, while another shared a story about suggesting a handjob to their wife after oral sex, noting the surprise and intimacy it brought. Sexologist Jenn Mason has argued that hand-based stimulation can be more intimate and versatile than oral, allowing for greater control over pressure, rhythm, and other aspects of the experience. She also emphasized the ability to maintain eye contact and engage in other forms of physical affection during a handjob. Health considerations are also influencing this trend. Handjobs are generally considered lower risk for sexually transmitted infections (STIs) compared to oral sex, especially in new relationships. However, skin-to-skin infections like herpes and HPV can still be transmitted. Experts also note that handjobs eliminate the risk of accidental bites or other oral-related issues. Additionally, the rise of hand-focused content in mainstream pornography has contributed to the trend’s visibility, with some experts citing the exhaustion of modern couples as a key driver. Many describe sex as a chore rather than an intimate experience, and handjobs offer a simpler, more spontaneous alternative. The cultural history of handjobs dates back thousands of years, with evidence found in Egyptian erotic art from around 1150 BCE and Roman practices that favored hand-based intimacy due to cultural taboos around oral sex. A previous resurgence occurred in the 1920s with the rise of "petting culture," which allowed couples to enjoy sexual pleasure without compromising perceived "virginity." While some still argue that oral sex is superior, others caution that self-stimulation can detract from the experience, as individuals often find they masturbate more effectively on their own. Additionally, overstimulation can lead to physical issues like "death grip syndrome," where excessive pressure reduces sensitivity. For many, oral sex remains a deeply intimate and vulnerable moment, offering a unique emotional connection that handjobs may not always replicate.