A reader who has been sexually active for over a decade is currently in a new relationship with a man who has never had sexual experiences and lives with erectile dysfunction. Despite the man’s kindness and positive qualities, the reader is struggling with feelings of resentment and a sense of deprivation. They find it difficult to be fully supportive of their partner, especially when it comes to their sexual relationship. The reader is now questioning whether the relationship is a good match for them, as they feel the emotional and sexual connection they usually enjoy in relationships is not developing between them. The reader is advised to consider whether this relationship is the right fit for their needs and to think about ways they might be able to meet their sexual desires independently, such as through masturbation. They are also encouraged to reflect on their feelings separately from the relationship and to consider whether they might be happier being single. It’s important for them to be patient and supportive of their partner while also being honest with themselves about their own needs and happiness. Another reader is in a casual, monogamous dating relationship that has lasted about three to four months. They have disclosed to their current partner that they experienced sexual abuse in the past. As a result, their partner has become more cautious during intimate moments, frequently checking in to make sure the reader is comfortable. While this shows care and sensitivity, the reader finds it distracting and sometimes uncomfortable. This situation highlights the importance of communication and understanding in relationships, especially when past trauma is involved. The reader may need to have an open conversation with their partner about how much reassurance is necessary and how they can both feel safe and comfortable during intimate moments. Balancing care with personal boundaries can be challenging but is essential for both partners to feel respected and supported.