Author reveals delayed abuse discovery

Gaël Lacheray, author of De l'abus à l'alliance - Pour une réconciliation du Féminin et du Masculin, disclosed that he only became aware of having been abused at the age of forty. He suggests that abuse can be repressed in the mind, with memories resurfacing at different times in life.

Metaphor for vulnerability to abuse

Lacheray uses a metaphor to describe how some individuals may be more susceptible to abuse, comparing it to a house with weak foundations. He argues that this vulnerability is not due to the victim’s fault but rather to underlying issues that make them more attractive to predators.

Caution against blaming the child

Brigitte Lahaie, who collaborates with Lacheray, stresses that the child is not to blame for the abuse. She explains that the child carries a "shadow" or vulnerability, but this is not their fault—it results from deficiencies they did not choose or create.

Roots of vulnerability in family history

Lacheray suggests that these vulnerabilities, or "doors left open," can be traced back to family history. He believes they may stem from generational lineage, karmic debts, or family secrets that influence a person’s life and experiences.

Unresolved family issues and abuse

Lacheray notes that people he has worked with who have experienced abuse often have unresolved family issues. He claims that these issues are frequently linked to mothers who were themselves victims of abuse and were unable to heal, leaving their children vulnerable.

Path to healing and liberation

Lacheray emphasizes that healing begins with awareness. He believes that understanding the abuse and its reasons is essential for true liberation. He encourages individuals to view their trauma as a challenge that they can resolve through personal power and mindset change.