Dear Don’t Cry Over Spoiled Milk, It sounds like you're in a loving relationship, but the small, everyday habits of your girlfriend are starting to take a toll. She leaves things like bread bags, cereal boxes, and milk out, forgets to close cabinets or drawers, and doesn’t always check if trash is properly in the bin. These habits have caused issues, like spoiled food and messy situations, and despite your conversations about it, she tends to slip back into old patterns. You feel conflicted—on one hand, you believe in "taking the rough with the smooth," a phrase from the show Bluey, and don’t want to let small things ruin your relationship. On the other, these behaviors are becoming frustrating and are affecting your daily life. It’s possible your girlfriend may be dealing with something like adult ADHD, which can make it harder to stay organized or complete tasks. If you think she might be open to it, you could gently suggest looking into it with a lighthearted approach, like sharing a fun article or video. Even if she receives a diagnosis or treatment, it’s unlikely to completely change her habits. That means you need to ask yourself if you can truly accept these behaviors in the long run. While it’s one thing to believe in patience, it’s another to feel constantly annoyed or even angry every time you see the mess. A helpful mental trick could be to reflect on the things she puts up with from you—maybe you’re not always perfect either. This could help put her habits into perspective and reduce your frustration. However, if something consistently bugs you, it’s not a "little thing." Relationships require compromise, but they also need to be sustainable. If you’re not comfortable with these habits long-term, it might be worth considering whether this is a relationship you want to continue. Dear At Least the Dog Is Cute, You did the right thing by helping the dog, and it’s understandable that you’re upset about not being reimbursed. Ana and Brad should definitely pay you back, especially since the situation wasn’t June’s fault—she wasn’t responsible for the dog or the fence. However, it’s important to consider how close you are to Ana and Brad. If your relationship with them is strong, you might want to avoid turning this into a conflict that could damage your connection. If you’re not willing to let it go, there are ways to gently recover some of the money without being confrontational. For example, you could stop giving them gifts or paying for meals you’d normally cover. But ultimately, this is a lesson in being careful about lending money to family or friends. You’ve learned a lot about their character, and now you can use that knowledge to guide how you interact with them in the future. Dear How Much, There is no obligation for your family to warn someone about a loved one’s sexuality, especially if that person is in a new, serious relationship. It’s not your place to interfere in someone else’s relationship or to share personal information about a family member unless they ask. Everyone has the right to their own privacy and to choose when and how they disclose personal details. If your family member is comfortable with their identity, that’s their decision, and it’s up to them whether they share that with their partner. Dear Prudie, You and your husband are covering the costs of your daughter’s wedding, and you had an agreement with her and her mother-in-law about how many guests each of you would invite. However, the mother-in-law has already sent out invitations to 120 people—far more than the agreed-upon 50. This is causing a problem, as the venue only holds 200 people, and the current plan would make it impossible to accommodate everyone. You need to address this with your daughter and the mother-in-law to clarify the situation and find a solution that works for everyone. It’s important to keep communication open and ensure that the wedding planning stays on track without unnecessary complications.