A lorry driver in his early thirties has admitted to being married with a young son and also having a pregnant girlfriend, expressing feelings of having "messed everything up." The man, whose job often takes him away from home, became involved with a woman who works for a company he regularly delivers to. His wife discovered messages on his phone that suggested an affair and initially asked him to leave the house. However, he was eventually allowed back after he promised the affair was over. Despite this, the woman continued to pursue him, and the relationship resumed. The man has considered disappearing without a trace, but he acknowledges this would not be easy. His job requires regular visits to his girlfriend's workplace, making it difficult to completely cut ties. He still has feelings for his wife and loves being a father to his son, but he feels he has ruined everything and is no use to anyone, including himself. Laura Collins, a counselor and columnist, responded to the man’s letter. She expressed that she struggles to feel sympathy for his situation, which she believes is of his own making. Instead, she feels for both the women involved. Collins criticized the man for even considering asking his pregnant girlfriend to have an abortion and then disappearing, calling the idea "appalling." She emphasized that the girlfriend should make her own decision about the pregnancy and that if she keeps the baby, the man would need to provide financial support. Collins advised him to be honest with his wife about his situation, warning that she may end any hopes for their future together. Collins’ response highlights the emotional and ethical complexities of the situation, focusing on the responsibilities and consequences the man must face. Her advice underscores the importance of honesty and accountability in relationships, especially when children are involved.