A parent from Los Angeles is trying to decide whether to let their 6-year-old daughter continue a friendship with a neighbor’s child after learning that the neighbor works in the adult film industry. The parent, writing under the name "Profession Doesn't Make Her a Pervert," explained that their wife, Laney, is uncomfortable with the neighbor, Caroline, and wants to end the friendship with Caroline and her daughter, Gracie, due to Caroline’s job. However, the parent does not share this concern and believes Caroline is a "perfectly nice, normal person." The parent confirmed Caroline's profession by watching some of her films after a friend identified her as an adult film actress. They argue that Caroline’s job does not make her a deviant and that their daughter, Sarah, should not lose a friend over this. They also pointed out that there are few children of similar age in the neighborhood and that this should not be a reason to cut off the friendship. In response, the Slate parenting advice column "Care and Feeding" suggested that the parent should focus on helping their wife understand how this decision might affect Sarah and Gracie. The column also noted that the parent's judgment about other parents in the neighborhood, including those with unconventional jobs, might be influenced by personal insecurities. The advice emphasized that children’s friendships should be maintained regardless of the parents’ personal opinions. The situation highlights the challenge many parents face when balancing their own values with the needs and relationships of their children. While concerns about a friend’s parent’s profession are understandable, the column suggests that it’s important to consider how such decisions might impact the children’s social development and emotional well-being.