Squirting, a topic often discussed in sexual health and intimacy advice, can be influenced by both individual anatomy and the comfort provided by a partner. According to a piece by sex educator Lola Jean, who holds a world record in squirting, the ability to squirt can be cultivated with time, patience, and muscle control. Not everyone who believes they cannot squirt actually cannot, and not everyone who attempts to do so will succeed, regardless of the methods used. Lola Jean notes that her first experience with squirting was due to the comfort her partner provided during exploration of her body, though she acknowledges that comfort is not a guaranteed path to squirting. For those interested in making their partner squirt, it is important to understand that the effort of the individual seeking to squirt is more significant than that of their partner. If a partner wishes to squirt but has not been able to, it may require personal effort to cultivate the ability. However, partners can support and care for their partner throughout the process. In a follow-up letter, a reader shared that their boyfriend's fantasy of wishing they had a penis was a turn-on for him, and they have since tried pegging. The reader is now seeking guidance on pegging for those whose partners are already experienced with penetration. They are looking for advice on finding the right harness for their body type, maintaining a consistent rhythm, and optimal positions for pegging. The advice suggests that communication with the partner is key, as preferences and physical compatibility vary widely. The reader is encouraged to focus on finding what works best for both partners through trial and error. For individuals whose partner has cerebral palsy, it is important to approach the topic with sensitivity and avoid condescending language. Ryan O’Connell, who has written extensively about sex and cerebral palsy, advises researching the specific needs of the partner and discussing what has been enjoyable in the past. He emphasizes that people with cerebral palsy may be accommodating and may not be honest about their limitations, so it is important to ask about their preferences without placing the onus on them. O’Connell also advises against treating the partner with excessive care, as it can be unsexy. A reader shared that they found anal sex to be more pleasurable than vaginal sex, attributing this to the presence of nerves that were previously missing in their vaginal experience. This highlights the variability in individual experiences and the importance of exploring different forms of intimacy to find what works best for each person.