Grandparents play a crucial role in the development of children, and certain rules may be necessary to fulfill this role effectively. According to Maya Bousaini, a child psychologist for Parade, grandparents can have a significant impact on a child's life, but this role comes with responsibilities that must be understood clearly. When grandparents act as direct caregivers, such as by helping with childcare, they contribute to a vital part of a child's upbringing. In many families, grandparents step in to support parents after school, during holidays, or during difficult times. For Amy Kincaid Todey, also a child psychologist, the role of a grandparent is unique. They offer something no one else can: unconditional love without the daily pressures of raising a child. Grandparents are the living history of their family, carrying stories, values, and a sense of identity that helps grandchildren feel connected to something larger than themselves. They are truly irreplaceable. However, this role works best when grandparents maintain harmony with their adult children and parents. Psychologists encourage grandparents to interact with respect and empathy, as this helps reduce the stress of their adult children. This, in turn, positively affects how these parents interact with their children, according to Brittney Pearson, a psychologist. To respect the role of parents, psychologists suggest grandparents take a step back and reflect on the rules and boundaries set by their children. Experts believe that a grandparent who supports the parents while providing a consistent, authentic presence rooted in family stories creates a safe environment for the child. They also recommend grandparents try to imagine how their actions might affect their children. Beyond the dynamics between three generations, the psychologists interviewed by Parade have outlined five guidelines that grandparents should follow to ensure the well-being of their grandchildren: 1. Maintain consistency in rules (such as schedules, discipline, and screen time), as "children flourish in predictable environments," says Brittney Pearson. 2. Respect the individuality of each child: "Let your grandchild be who they are," advises Joseph Galasso, a clinical psychologist. 3. Prioritize presence over performance; for Amy Kincaid Todey, "what grandchildren remember most is not the lessons. It's the fact of being with you." 4. Show that one continues to grow and change, for example by saying: "I think differently these days" or "I learned something new." 5. Frequently share the family story, including both the fun and difficult parts: "Grandparents are the living guardians of this story," notes Amy Kincaid Todey.