A reader recently wrote to the "How to Do It" advice column about a social situation involving a sex party organized by a married couple. The group had a rule that no unaccompanied men were allowed, but they made an exception when the wife of a regular attendee couldn't attend due to an emergency. This decision caused some tension, with half the group feeling the exception was unfair and the other half believing it was reasonable, given the attendee's long-standing relationship with the group. The column's response suggested that the exception was justified based on the attendee's familiarity and the absence of any concerns about his behavior. It also recommended that the couple might consider updating their rule to include a provision about unvetted unaccompanied men if they wanted to prevent similar issues in the future. Another reader, a mid-30s married man in a polyamorous relationship, wrote about his struggles in finding romantic partners. Despite being confident and physically fit, he had not had much success on dating apps or in person. He questioned whether factors like his age, height, or other traits were affecting his dating life. The column suggested that there might be something in the broader social or emotional environment affecting dating success and encouraged him to reflect on his approach to relationships. It also recommended exploring local polyamorous communities, which might offer more understanding and compatibility. A reader in his 70s wrote about experiencing a sudden loss of sensation in his prostate, despite having a healthy prostate and no changes in his medication. The column discussed several possible medical conditions, such as pelvic floor dysfunction, pudendal neuralgia, prostatic inflammation, or spinal issues. It emphasized the importance of consulting a doctor, especially one with experience in issues related to the gay community and anal stimulation. While psychosomatic causes were mentioned, the advice was clear: seeking expert medical evaluation was crucial to identify and address the underlying issue.