A reader in their late 50s shared concerns about their relationship with their wife, who has experienced a noticeable decrease in sexual desire due to menopause. The reader is worried about whether this situation might be considered marital rape, as their wife has agreed to have sex every other week but appears indifferent. The advice column clarified that, legally and ethically, marital rape typically involves non-consensual sexual activity. Since the wife has given consent, even if it is not enthusiastic, it does not meet the legal definition of rape. The column also suggested that cultural or religious beliefs might influence her decision to engage in sexual activity, and encouraged the reader to have an open and honest conversation with their wife to ensure both partners are comfortable with the current arrangement. In another query, a 50-year-old man asked about the best way to maintain hygiene in the anal area. The advice column emphasized the importance of thorough cleaning, recommending the use of water and mild soap, as well as bidets for more effective cleansing. The column also acknowledged that the topic is often surrounded by social stigma and encouraged individuals to approach the subject with openness and without shame, as proper hygiene is essential for overall health. A third reader, a 37-year-old man in an open relationship with his fiancé, expressed distress after learning that his fiancé had cheated twice without his knowledge. The reader is now considering ending the relationship. The advice column suggested discussing the matter with the fiancé again before making a final decision, as there may be misunderstandings or unresolved issues. The column also recognized the complexity of ending a long-term relationship, especially when it involves shared responsibilities and assets. It recommended seeking mediation if needed and emphasized the importance of building a support system and staying active to manage the emotional challenges that come with such a transition.