Ghosting is a common but painful experience

Being ghosted by a friend or romantic partner can be deeply unsettling. When someone suddenly stops responding to messages, it often feels personal and hurtful, especially with the prevalence of read receipts and other indicators that someone has seen a message but chooses not to reply.

Experts explore the psychology behind ghosting

Recent research published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin suggests that ghosting is not always a deliberate act. Scientists Sophia Li and Coral Zheng explain that while it is a widespread phenomenon, it is not always intentional or malicious.

Ghosting can be unintentional and emotionally taxing

The study found that people who ghost others often experience emotional distress, with an average rating of 2.27 out of 5, compared to 1.56 for those who are ghosted. This means the person who is silent may feel guilt or sadness, even if they are not responding intentionally.

Ghosting is a subjective experience

According to the researchers, ghosting is a subjective experience. If one person perceives the silence as an intentional disappearance, that is enough for the situation to be labeled as ghosting, even if the other person did not mean to cause harm.

Misunderstandings are more common than malice

Many instances of ghosting may stem from simple forgetfulness, a need for space, or other non-malicious reasons. The person who is waiting may interpret the silence as rejection, but the person who is silent may feel guilt or discomfort.

A simple message can reduce emotional conflict

Experts suggest that a brief message, such as "Sorry, but I can't talk right now," can significantly reduce the emotional gap between the two people involved. This kind of communication helps prevent the other person from imagining the worst and can ease the emotional burden on both sides.