A reader wrote to a relationship advice column asking how to handle her boyfriend's comments during sex that make her uncomfortable. The boyfriend, who does not want to undergo bottom surgery, sometimes expresses a wish that she had a penis or mentions missing having sex with men. The reader, a cisgender woman, says these remarks bother her, even though she does not experience gender dysphoria, which is the distress some people feel due to a mismatch between their gender identity and biological sex. The column advised starting the conversation with curiosity and expressing love for her partner’s body, while also clearly explaining why the comments are unsettling. Another reader, a woman in her 40s, wrote about her husband’s willingness to use sexual props in their relationship, but only if it is a nonnegotiable requirement for her satisfaction. She mentioned that she often imagines more intense or unconventional sexual scenarios during sex than what actually happens, and this works for her. The column responded that fantasizing during sex is not inherently negative and that exploring sexual props could help bridge the gap between fantasy and reality. However, the writer questioned whether the nonnegotiable condition was necessary and suggested that exploring new experiences without such strict requirements might offer more flexibility. A third reader asked about her husband's recent need for constant kissing during sex, a change from his previous behavior. The column advised considering both physiological and psychological factors, such as stress, hormonal changes, or emotional needs. The writer suggested discussing the change with her husband and, if needed, encouraging him to see a healthcare provider to rule out any underlying medical issues. Open communication was emphasized as a key step in understanding and addressing the shift in behavior. Each of these letters highlights the complexity of sexual relationships and the importance of open, respectful dialogue in navigating personal boundaries and desires.