A new publication delves into the philosophical aspects of expressing love, drawing heavily on the ideas of French theorist Roland Barthes. The issue explores how to comfort a loved one and effectively inspire collective action, with a focus on the guidance provided by philosophers. In his 1977 work Fragments of a Love Discourse, Barthes argues that expressing desire is more than just communicating a message. He suggests that the ideal word in a loving context is not one that shows wisdom or intelligence, but one that evokes the body and reflects the passion of desire. According to Barthes, the lover "trembles" when trying to express feelings, as if embodying the intense emotions of someone waiting anxiously for a response from a phone, overwhelmed by the depth of their feelings.
Barthes' essay is structured like a dictionary, listing different aspects of love with entries such as "A" for "anxiety," "J" for "jealousy," "R" for "rapture," and "T" for "tenderness." He describes language as a kind of skin, saying, "I rub my language against the other." This passionate form of communication is not just about delivering a message, but about experiencing and sharing the internal fire that consumes the speaker. Barthes elaborates, "Language is a skin: I rub my language against the other. It is as if I had words in place of fingers, or fingers at the end of my words. My language trembles with desire."
For Barthes, speaking is not just a metaphor for desire but a physical act. He writes, "I wrap the other in my words, I caress him, I brush against him, I maintain this brushing, I expend myself to make the commentary I subject the relationship to last." The act of speaking lovingly is itself a form of relationship, though it lacks the climax of physical intimacy. The words of a lover, as gentle as a caress and as slow as a kiss, are not just speech but the first touch in which language itself "enjoys the touch." Therefore, the effectiveness of words of love can be judged by the pleasure one feels in both saying and receiving them.
Barthes' approach challenges traditional views of language as a mere tool for communication. Instead, he presents it as a deeply embodied experience, where the act of speaking becomes an intimate connection. This perspective redefines how we understand love, suggesting that it is not only felt but also expressed through the very words we choose to share with others.
Roland Barthes on the Physicality of Love Language
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