At a social media meetup for comedians in central London, an individual recounted a personal encounter with a man named Gareth. They had met through a mutual friend and began flirting, which led to a one-night stand at Gareth’s home. The sexual experience left the individual feeling physically overwhelmed and unfulfilled. They described the encounter as one-sided, noting that Gareth’s thrusting "had absolutely nothing for me, but everything for him." Afterward, Gareth explained that his method of achieving orgasm was unique and that he showed no concern for the individual’s experience, stating it was "the only way I can orgasm." A year later, the individual had another experience with a different man who used emotional manipulation tactics, including "negging"—a strategy where someone undermines another’s confidence or self-esteem through subtle put-downs. This encounter left the individual close to tears and contributed to a period of emotional healing and self-reflection. They came to better understand their own self-worth during this time. The individual described Gareth as indifferent to their feelings, comparing him to a "man-child" who needed to "get a grip." They left the situation feeling annoyed but determined not to let it impact their daily life. The individual expressed relief when they never saw Gareth again, as thinking of him still causes discomfort. These experiences, while challenging, helped the individual grow and develop a stronger sense of self. They emphasized the importance of recognizing and respecting personal boundaries in relationships, whether romantic or otherwise.