The words parents use can have a lasting effect on children, shaping how they view themselves. A comment made in a moment of stress or exhaustion can be misinterpreted by a child, leading them to believe the issue lies with them rather than the parent's mood. Psychologist Solenne Rouxel explains that children often build their self-image based on how adults, especially those close to them, perceive them. "They struggle to step back from their parents' reactions and understand that their frustration does not directly target them," she notes. Repeated comments can gradually become part of a child's self-perception, influencing their confidence and emotional well-being long after the words were spoken. Solenne Rouxel often hears from her patients about phrases from their childhood that still resonate with them. Some of these comments, though seemingly harmless to the parent, can carry emotional weight for the child. "The emotion associated with these words can remain years later," she says. While it is not about blaming parents, who may be stressed or overwhelmed, it is important to reflect on how certain phrases can shape a child's inner dialogue over time. Here are five examples of remarks that may be worth reconsidering. One such phrase is "You talk too much," which might be said when a parent is trying to find calm or focus. However, if it becomes a recurring comment, the child may internalize the idea that their voice is a burden. This can lead them to believe their thoughts are unimportant or that they should remain silent. As Rouxel explains, this can create a belief like "I talk too much" or "What I say is not interesting." Another phrase, "I'm sick of you," may express temporary frustration from a tired parent. Yet, the child might interpret it as a personal rejection, feeling they are too much of a burden. This can lead to guilt and withdrawal, as children often struggle to question the emotional support they receive from adults. The phrase "You do everything wrong" can follow a child's small mistake, such as spilling a drink or forgetting an instruction. However, this wording can make the child feel that everything they do is flawed. It can contribute to a more negative self-image, making them doubt their abilities and feel incapable of doing things correctly. Similarly, saying "You are really clumsy" after a mishap may seem like a simple observation. But repeated use of this label can make the child feel defined by their mistakes, rather than seeing them as temporary setbacks. Finally, "You are too sensitive" may be used to downplay a child's strong emotions. However, this can make the child feel that their feelings are inconvenient or something to be hidden. Rouxel emphasizes that adults' words can leave a lasting impression, shaping a child's emotional landscape for years. Therefore, it is important for parents to be mindful of how they speak to their children, choosing words that foster confidence and emotional security.