Emotional imbalance in love is common

Many people give more in relationships than they receive, believing it to be a sign of true love. However, this pattern often reflects an unmet need for security rather than a lack of love itself.

Psychopractitioner identifies the pattern

Géraldyne Prévot-Gigant, a relationship specialist with thirty years of experience, has heard the phrase “I always love more than I am loved” repeatedly in her practice. She sees this as a reflection of deeper emotional and attachment issues.

Lack of reciprocity affects emotional security

Prévot-Gigant explains that people who feel they give more often lack a reciprocal bond that would make them feel secure. Without this balance, love becomes a continuous search for reassurance, with the hope of eventually being loved in return.

Scientific research supports emotional attachment theory

Psychologists Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver introduced the theory of adult romantic attachment in 1987. Their research showed that secure attachment styles lead to greater satisfaction and stability in relationships.

Attachment style impacts relationship quality

Studies have confirmed that attachment styles formed in childhood influence adult relationships. A Quebec study found that avoidant attachment styles harm marital satisfaction by affecting intimacy and commitment, showing that the quality of the bond matters more than the quantity of love given.