Excessive praise can harm children

According to Dr. Yasmine Liénard, a psychiatrist and psychotherapist interviewed by Journal des Femmes, too much praise can lead to problems in children’s development. While encouragement is important for building confidence, when it becomes constant and exaggerated, it may create a need for perfection and validation.

Pressure of perfection from praise

Dr. Liénard explains that when children are constantly praised for their performance or appearance, they may start to believe that only extraordinary achievements are worth recognition. This can create pressure to succeed and a reliance on others’ approval for self-worth.

Narcissistic traits in adulthood

In adulthood, the need for constant validation can manifest as a sense of superiority, a desire to be admired, and an intolerance for criticism. These behaviors are often linked to narcissistic personality traits, where individuals struggle to accept ordinary outcomes or failure.

Adaptation challenges

Dr. Liénard notes that people who were overly praised as children may face significant difficulties adapting to life’s natural challenges, such as failure or criticism. They may feel deep frustration when they are no longer the center of attention or when they encounter limits.

Balancing praise with self-esteem

To avoid these issues, Dr. Liénard suggests focusing on self-esteem rather than excessive praise. Encouraging children to accept themselves as whole individuals, with both strengths and flaws, helps them develop a healthier sense of self-worth. This approach fosters resilience and reduces the risk of narcissistic tendencies.